Miss-R has linked to this remarkable article defending the antics of the Australian Rugby League. The argument is, essentially, that “boys will be boys.” In this case “being boys” involves violence, drunkenness, pubic urination, and (allegations of) gang rape. Her claim (which others, including John Eldridge, have made) is that feminism is trying to stamp out any sort of gender differentiation and leave some sort of homogenous, androgynous muddle.
I got news for you, feminists. One, by trying to differentiate groups, you are effectively acknowledging that they exist, which is why you put the focus on it in the first place, right? Pay more attention. Two, success in the field of man-to-woman (add LGBT disclaimer here) relations is not based on how much you can make the groups alike, it’s how much you can accept the differences.
My two tips for success: women, grow a skin; men, try and be more elegant. More to love for everyone.
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Let me tell you what feminism is, please. Feminism aims for equality and an end to gender discrimination, politically, socially, and professionally. Not just for women, but for men, too. It means not snickering at a male nurse or being overly impressed/surprised when a great guitarist is a woman. Feminism celebrates the differences of sex and sexuality, but realizes that there’s a spectrum and it’s perfectly fine to fall outside of the “norm.”
It means if I have to have a title in front of my name, it’s Ms. instead of Miss, because I don’t want my marriage status to define me. It means that in a co-ed softball game, I shouldn’t get sent to right field automatically. It means, Rob, that different groups do exist, but groups should all have equal rights and treatment, just like race and sexuality.
The group that I think many of you are thinking of (angry women wielding bloody tampons and screaming about the atrocities of men) are not feminists. Those are what we like to call “feminazis,” the female equivalent of “chauvinist pigs.”
Yes, males and females have characteristic that define them and that are usually associated with each group, and that’s fine. But I don’t care how rough-and-tumble manly-man you are, gang rape is never okay and neither is saying that it’s “natural.” That’s insulting no matter what gender you are.
I’m totally open to civil discussion/debate on this.
More from Dani’s study abroad in Japan. Before you read this, let me tell you that even after knowing and best friending Dani for I guess eight or nine years now I have not so much as seen her butt crack. This entry blew my mind.
Finally, a culturally acceptable outlet for all my latent tendencies toward exhibitionism! Well…maybe not exactly.
Although I’d been told our trip was to Sendai, we didn’t spend any time in the city apart from seeing the baseball games. Our hotel was in Matsushima, about an hour away, which boosts one of the top three most scenic views in Japan—which I had the pleasure of looking out on from a giant picture window while immersed in blissfully blisteringly hot water.
When we arrived in Matsushuma, around 7pm on Saturday, there were no other signs of life around the station until a taxi puttered up to take us to the big, luxurious hotel. I followed along not really knowing what was going on, feeling stressed and tired, as my host parents checked in, found our room, and greeted their friend Hoshino-san, who’d be spending the first night with us. I sat on my bed, waiting for someone to clue me in, and Naoko-san eventually asked if I wanted to change into the yukata the hotel provided, to which my response was something like, “Ok here now what?” “No,” she said, “we take a bath first.”
So off we went to the hotel’s public bath! And there were many naked people. And I spent a couple minutes on the verge of panic, thinking, “Wait wait wait. I really have to get naked with a woman who I have to see everyday for the next 3 months?” But then it just wasn’t a big deal, and I found it incredibly nice to be able to be naked around other naked people and not have it be shameful or even particularly wonderful, but just normal.
I love bathing enough as it is, so getting to do it every evening before dinner and every morning after breakfast while we were there in super hot water, while looking out down over the sea and all its tree-covered islands, was pretty much euphoric. In the mornings, when the air was just beginning to warm up, I got to bathe in the smaller bath outside and then sit on the balcony and let the light breeze dry my skin.
Recently, musicians Joe Satriani, The Creaky Boards and Cat Stevens have accused British rock band Coldplay of plagirising elements of their songs. We’ve compiled a list of other artists who have also expressed their feelings that Coldplay has lifted from their material as well.
1. The phrase ‘Rule The World’ used in ‘Viva la Vida’s lyrics was directly lifted from Tears for Fears’ ‘Everybody Wants to Rule The World.’
2. The idea of their song and image being used in an Apple iPod ad was clearly lifted from Feist’s song and image being in an Apple iPod ad.
3. The usage of the phonetic sound “Ohhhhhh” as background vocals is strikingly similar to Prince’s orgasmic “Ohw!”s in ‘Kiss.’
4. Pianos and stringed instruments make up the core melody of ‘Viva La Vida;’ however, Danny Harris’ 3rd grade Orchestra recital employed this concept/arrangement 6 years ago, with Mrs. Rowley leading on piano with Danny and his peers supporting on violins and violas.
5. The band’s name “Coldplay” is a highly derivative of American ice cream parlor chain Coldstone Creamery.
6. The idea of a cocky, self-absorbed, attention-starved lead singer is nothing new, Bono of U2 has been doing it for years before Coldplay came about.